Why aren’t I getting any clients?
How come I am not as busy as the rest of the girls? I can tell they are. They all have many reviews !!
– Reviews don’t mean a thing. Thats another chapter (It’s hard to stay on track)
-You are only on ONE Site ! Or maybe 3. Many other girls in this industry are on over 1200 sites if not more. It does not matter if one board is only for a few different regions in the states. Exposure is KEY. When Wally Walheimer visits timbuktu, NY. He will remember your name and look for you.
” I asked them for their work info and home address and home phone”
Many men dont want to divulge that. You are new and no one knows if you are cop, if you are honest yet. They will not give such secret info. Find another means to screen them. Neither of the two things mean crap. Many police stings are set up at work places- and them telling you where they live really doesnt mean a thing ! Again. Thats another chapter.
“How come they saw DirtyDonna and Not me? “
-Dirty Donna doesn’t have on her site or ad profile that she drinks and that an occasional joint is okay. The refined hobbyist does NOT like to indulge in drugs and he’d much rather have you not either.
” So what if I use 3 different names and 3 different profiles and portray 3 different persona’s”
Trust me, we all know about it. Don’t be an asshole Do you really think we arent going to find out ???
“How come men are more opt to go to my competitors page than mine? What makes hers so much better”
It doesn’t mean she is better. She has a .com site or a .net site. Her own domain. Get one. It looks professional and it shows that you have style. Get off of TRIPOD and GEOCITIES and yahoo free sites. Chances are you will be deleted anyhow for adult content. Rare- courtesans etc, are great sites. Many girls that are well known already use them. They maybe had a bad time with web designers or domain hosting and said screw it ! But try to have your own .com . net site!! ( again, thats another chapter )
“How come the men wont see me, I just posted my ad about how I offer discounts for reviews”
Because you are now considered tacky !! It means you are desparate. Other girls and men will now think you are being nice and doing different things just to get reviews . All hobbyists, all escorts network together in this industry. In no time the rumor will get around that you are a lowlife and no one will see you.He told two friends and they told two friends and now the whole community knows.
” Well what is so bad about me barebacking. IT’s MY LIFE “
Yes it is. Live it well ! Because you sure wont be making any money from this industry. You are now diseased and disgusting in the minds of many. If you bareback one or try to, He told two friends and they told two friends and now the whole community knows.
” I Had tons of guys when I went to my first city. Now they won’t come back ” or “I had tons of guys the first few months I advertised. Why Won’t my local clients come back ? “
- Because you forgot to make the bed and change the sheets after Leo left and Cornelius came in. Make your room brand new as if no one has been there before him. If he wanted to have visited a brother, he would have !
- Because you left your waste paper basket full of used condoms and never cleaned it out.
- You left all your used towels from past clients on the floor in bathroom.
- Because you had Buster your bodyguard standing outside your door when Joeschmoe came over
- You forgot to wash your snatch after your hot sex with Mr BeatleBaumer. You smelled like sex and condoms.
- Because your room smelled of smoke and marijuana! Men dont want to go back to work smelling like smoke !!
- Because you left your crack pipe in view!
And in all this..He told two friends and they told two friends and now the whole community knows.
“How come he won’t come back, he said I smelled so good !”
-TOO GOOD perhaps. Now he has to go back home to the wife or girlfriend smelling like a french whore. DONT WEAR PERFUME OR ANY FRAGRANCE.This also applies to the businessman going back to his office.
-Your perfume stunk. It made him ILL
” How come he won’t come back to my incall at my apartment or home ?”
Cause you live in the ghetto my friend. He told two friends and they told two friends and now the whole community knows. Let’s see, You see 3 men a day for 200 or 250? If only working Monday thru friday. You make nearly 3 grand a week. MOVE. Sell the house !! For the love of god ! Or get another incall location that is in a good, quite safe neighborhood. MOVE!
” How come he didn’t like the used condom wrapper on my dresser/nightstand”
Because you look like a dirty whore. Not a refined lady of taste that is only seeing him for the day. If he wanted to go to the Bunny Ranch. He’d be in Vegas. Clean up your bedroom !! He told two friends and they told two friends and now the whole community knows.
” Why did he say that I looked different than my pics ?”
Because you do! They are over a year old. Many things can change with a girl in a year. Hair color, hair style, weight, skin, etc. always update your pics every 2-3 months. He told two friends and they told two friends and now the whole community knows.
” Well so what If I talk about Sam Pete and Mark this week “
Men do not want to hear about your other clients. They want to feel as if they are the only man that sees you. This is what gfe and escorting is all about. The Fantasy. Make him feel special.
” Ok so he didn’t like the way my room /house was decorated. “
When pics of Daddy and the whole family dressed in Police officer attire are around, and that Police Dept sticker is on your door becasue you just donated, well. Men think you are a cop or working for LE. He told two friends and they told two friends and now the whole community knows.
” What is bait and switch and why are men saying this?”
Because you were busy last night you cannot send one of your friends posing as you. He didnt want to see Buela Bodangey that was latin and smelled like Furmunda cheese. He wanted to see you ! This is dishonest ! Many men belong to reviews boards/message boards and they WiLL tattle on you!! Many men are in close email contact with other hobbyists. They will tattle ! And even those email contacts..He told two friends and they told two friends and now the whole community knows.
” well so what if I didn’t screen him , Why does he care “
While it is true, most men do not want to be screened !! Alot of men feel safer when you are being safe. If they think you don’t screen even a little. They wonder when you will get busted by the cops. Cops will take your phone -laptop -computer when you are busted- Therefore their names and numbers in your phone. They are NOW UNSAFE. Give the gentlemen a feeling that you are being safe. Or ..He told two friends and they told two friends and now the whole community knows you can get busted any day.
” Why did he ask me to delete his email and phone number and not save it “
Because of the above reason. AND. Men do NOT want you emailing them or cold calling them. They have families, work, a social civilian network of friends. He doesn’t want his escort call him. Or emailing him. Men pay you for their time, your time,their safety, and your safety. As well, They pay you to stay away and to keep you as a secret. DONT EVER CALL OR EMAIL MEN OUT OF THE BLUE. OR..He told two friends and they told two friends and now the whole community knows.
” My men never email me back to see me “
First of all, they aren’t YOUR men.Many men don’t save your email, they delete it. Perhaps they delete their emails and make new ones. Perhaps they had a computer crash. Your email Dolly.4u12367.inBuffaloNY@verizon.net does not exactly stick in their minds. Pick an easy email so men will remember it off the top of their heads. Same with your website. If your site is www.redheadlittletittycommitteeinbuffalony.com they arent to apt to remember it. Choose a domain name such as good friends of mine, www.Mikithemilf.com or BuffaloCharm.com or KellyShannon.com. Sort of like this blog . ” now how do i get to those escort blogs again ? Oh yeah. escortblogs.net.
” Why did My client go to see my competitor ?”
Because this is what the hobby is all about ! Variety. He isnt YOUR MAN or YOUR PROPERTY!!. You should have many regulars in no time at all! If you’ve now been escorting for over 3 months and don’t have regulars, Start at Chapter one and keep reading. You are apparently doing something wrong !”
” God, I try to be nice to the girls and network with them, how come they wont answer ? “
- Many reasons !!
You told a client that SashaSinful was a dirty whore and was arrested, and steals. Your client will tell SashaSinful because he’s known her for years. SHe is is going to tell her very large network of other girls and you are doomed !!Always speak nicely of other girls !! They are out for the same thing as you. Good safe clean fun ! They will ruin you in an instant! They may even find out where you live and come beat your ass ! hahahah. ( Kidding, I’ve heard it happening though in all my years in this industry) There is no reason to say bad things about other girls ! Many are around to help you! - Because you won’t give references. Give them!!! These men are NOT YOURS !!! They are going to see other girls even without your reference and will find a way. She will tell a girl and they will tell 5 girls, therefore labeling you are a piece of shit. Give references. ALl it has to say is ” No he isn’t a cop and doesn’t play games, he is very legit. “
- You told another escort in confidence that you are under house arrest. Well now ya did it !!! She just told all 800 million people in the escorting industry that you are under the lines of Law enforcement and your probation officer can show at your door at anytime.
- Some girls just like to keep to themselves- They aren’t here for you or any other girl. They have been burned before. It’s ok. This is a business. We all run it differently.
” well he emailed me for an appointment, but for some reason wont email me back “
- If your email looked something like this :
‘Eye’d luv 2 c u . Let git two gether sune! ‘ Please look literate. You look like a 10 year old typing!! Ok, so maybe you do not spell well ! Im not picking on you. Lord know’s, this blog isn’t perfect grammatical etiquette, But it’s mine, and I don’t have to be perfect on my blog ! Just email him your phone number with ” Call me” . - Many men will test the waters. They go be email etiqutte, phone etiquette. They want to know more about you before seeing you. Some men will sit and not see you for 3-6 months or frequent your site over and over before they come see you. They will wait for reviews to come out. THey will wait to see if your rep is stellar.
- Chances are they just didn’t get it. Try again. Spam filters suck!
” So What if my house arrest bracelet is on “
Men dont want to see you. You are unsafe. You are on probation and MR probation officer will be at the door anytime. They will tell a friend, and they will tell two friends!
” I confided in this man my whole life story and now he doesnt want to come back “
well love, DONT. This isnt the dating game. These men arent your counselors or therapists. They don’t want to hear about your drama or issues with life or other men girls in the hobby. They can stay at home for drama and issues. They can stay at their work place for drama and issues. THey come to see you for a carefree, hassle free experience. For no stress and to forget about thier problems. They don’t want to hear about YOURS!!! Therefore, going to another escort.
“I said on my ads and site that I am 140. Now they are mad because I am really 170. I am really 200. ( and so on)”
Girl, Please do not be embarassed of your weight. You don’t even know how many lovely ladies are BBW’s. ( Big Beatiful woman) or full figured . Men LOVEEEE BBW’s and too many men, this is their preference ! Some of my best friends in the industry are BBW’s and due to the fact, they make LOT of money . Sometimes even more money than girls like myself or the millions of others that are of smaller build. What you don’t know. Is the other million of others, Are in fact , BBW’s!!! Don’t lie. You will be surprised with the refined number of hobbyists coming to see you!
” I am ashamed of my age ! So I lied “
Sugar dumplin!! Do you even know the amount of men that ARE ONLY LOOKING FOR WOMAN over the age of 30 or 35 ? Over the age of 40 and 50!?!?!?! Goodness, ask me ! I am 39! I lied about it for a while. That was ages ago when I didn’t know any better. This is why I write the PHD blogs. These are all experiences of mine OR other girls I know around the net for the last 10 years. Men have gotten burned by younger girls. In many ways !! They choose to see older women that know what the hell they are doing. An older women is more mature and is less apt to play games. The first mistakes when you first start out is lying about your age or weight ! don’t do it ! The men will tell a friend and they will tell two friends.
” Well I kinda posted a pic of someone else and said it was me ! I don’t like the way I look. I’m ugly! “
-Now who are you anyhow to judge yourself with such low esteem ? In this business, its all about high esteem and feeling good about yourself !! You aren’t ugly. There are million of men all over the nation that will love your look in one way or another. Perhaps you may remind them of an old highschool sweetheart. An old ex he’s still in love with. You look like the girl next door ! Literally and figurativly ! Never be ashamed of yourself. The old cliche` goes ” There is someone for everyone”. And there will be many for you!!
– Many men arent all about looks ! They are about professionalism, safety, and a good time. Hell, if ya give a good blow job they will keep coming back . ( haha)